How Can This Be?

Presented at West Boylston (MA) UCC Church, December 18, 2011.

       2 Samuel 7:1-11, 16
       Romans 16:25-27
       Luke 1:26-38

I’ve been considering Mary’s question in this morning’s reading from Luke. Gabriel tells Mary that she will soon have a child, a son; that he’ll be a great King, and that he will sit on the throne of his ancestor, David.  Mary then asks “How can this be?

As Christians, this is a question we often ask ourselves, or perhaps others ask of us: How can this be?   A lot is wrapped up in that simple little question: How can a baby be born of a virgin?  Why is God doing this?  Why does it matter?

I begin by asking myself “what was Mary thinking when she asked this?”  I’m not so sure the common assumption, that she’s wondering how a virgin can give birth, is what she is so perplexed about.

How can this be?

Let us pray…

Lord, open our eyes and hearts here today.  Work in us to set aside our truth for your truth.  Open my mouth, Lord, that I may be a faithful witness to your Gospel; that your Holy Spirit, working through my voice, and working in the hearts of all of us here today, is made manifest.  And, in turn, that we are made ready to share your gospel with all whom we encounter, and all who seek to know you.  Amen.

How can this be?

We often think of such a question as asking “Is this true?  Is it real?  Can we believe in it?”  When looked at in this way, Mary’s question is attempting to tie the facts she knows together with her faith.  How can this be?

Let’s see, suppose I wrote a letter to the city hall in Bethlehem.  And in response to my request, a clerk digs around in the old dusty records in the basement.  Suppose that clerk finds what I’m looking for and sends me a copy.  A Birth Certificate, like this one – let’s see – ah… dated the 25th of December 4 BC (How’d they know that?), and the baby’s name is Yeshua.  Oh, the mother is Mariam (hmmmm the father’s name is blank…) and – look here – some of the witnesses signed it, too … uh … Melchior, Balthazar and Caspar.

Wow, that would be pretty cool, wouldn’t it?

But, such a piece of paper, by itself, is meaningless.

Yes, it would be a fact, but its reality comes alive and has meaning for us only because we see it through our faith.  Such a document would only tie together a lot of things we already know, and believe.  If we can’t read Aramaic, or whatever language it was written in, we wouldn’t even know what it said.  If we know nothing of Christianity, what is written on it would be totally irrelevant to us.  The facts in such a document, in isolation, independent of all of the connections it creates in our minds and spirits, loses its reality.  It loses the vibrancy and intensity that it could have evoked.  No person of faith, of any faith, bases his or her belief on one piece of paper.  There’s a lot more to it.

The facts in such a document would be of value only when seen through our faith.  Only through faith would it become reality.  But, faith that is not grounded in reality has no value.   If our faith doesn’t connect with, and strengthen, what we already know is real and important, then it is of no value.  Such a faith cannot live, and will not survive.  This is why James, in his epistle, says “Faith without works is dead.”  His point is that Faith and Reality are inextricably tied together.  We see our faith through our own reality, supported by the facts we know; and we see reality through our faith.

The Virgin birth is a reality because of our faith.  It has a reality, a fullness, because our faith is alive, always growing and deepening as we continue our journey towards greater understanding of the eternal and unchanging truth that is in God.

Now, let’s go back to look Mary’s question from a different angle, and see where it leads.  We read in Luke that Gabriel says to Mary “you will conceive in your womb and bear a son..…” In response, Mary says “How can this be, since I am a Virgin?

What does virginity have to do with it?  Mary is about to get married!  That she will soon lose her virginity, maybe even get pregnant, is no surprise to anyone!

Our common conception, that Mary is asking how a virgin can have a child doesn’t make sense; because, at this point in the story, the angel has not yet said who the father is, nor when the pregnancy will begin.

In fact, the language Gabriel uses here is nearly identical to what we see elsewhere in the Bible, when couples who are desperate for a child, like Sarah and Abraham, are told by an angelic messenger that their prayers have been answered.  No difference, nothing new!

The literature of Ancient Israel is full of great heroes whose births are foretold by angelic messengers.  An angel declared a similar prophecy over the birth of Samson.  Just a few lines prior to Mary’s story, we read that Gabriel made the same sort of prophesy about John, the son to come of Zechariah and Elizabeth.  That God did such things was no surprise to Mary.  So, why did she ask “How can this be, since I am a virgin?

We also need to bear in mind that Mary isn’t looking for help.  The angel does not come in response to prayer.  God is not responding to some lack in Mary’s life.   Mary is still young, her future is filled with the possibilities and energy of youth.  She’s anticipating marriage, children, perhaps even imagining what her grandchildren will be like.

In all other such narratives in scripture, a woman and her husband have been praying for a child for years.  But Mary has not yet been frustrated or limited by the realities and disappointments of life.  She does not know the sadness and despair of not being able to become pregnant.  She has not experienced the pain of a miscarriage or abortion, and does not wake up every morning with the anguish of having lost a child.   (At least, not yet.  

All these other couples in scripture could not have children. They were all desperate, because in that time and place, being childless meant you had no future.  This is not Mary’s situation, Mary still has a future, Mary is still a virgin.

In all the scriptures, the scriptures that Mary knew so well, what was happening to her only came in response to a desperate plea for a child.  This is why Mary asks “How can this be, since I am a virgin?”

God is doing something different here, something new is happening, and Mary sees the difference.  But, she does not understand how this can be, or why.  She’s perplexed.  Until this moment, Mary‘s expectations were just like those of any other young woman in her time and place.  Until this moment, she had anticipated her future as being similar to that of everyone else she knew, there in her little village, in that anonymous corner of the world.

And yet, the angel came to her.

How can this be, since I am a virgin?

And so, this brings us back to my questions at the start of this meditation: How can this be? Why is this? What does it mean for us?

For me, it’s the very ordinariness of Mary that is at the heart of this.  God calls her out of an ordinary life.  God asks her to do something that has never been done before.  She has to be willing, even though she is unsure what her response will bring.  She fears the challenges, condemnation, perhaps even punishment she might face for being an unwed mother.  Although it is clear her son will be destined for greatness, she doesn’t know the details of God’s plan for the child; nor what it will mean for her.  Yet, she is willing: she knows God can do all things, and so she responds to this call into the unknown, placing her life in God’s hands.

For me, this is the heart of the Annunciation. God isn’t here just in the extraordinary times.  God isn’t here just when we need him.  God loves us, and calls us, right here, right now, right where we’re at in our ordinary, everyday lives.

And now, let’s circle back to my earlier thoughts on Faith and Reality: We’ve learned that Faith and Reality cannot exist in isolation from each other.  Reality impacts how we understand our faith, and our faith helps us to see and comprehend the reality all around us.

But, how can God, the one omnipotent, omnipresent and immortal God, become a reality to us?  And, how can we become a reality to God?  How can such a god have any sort of relationship with us, here in our finite humanity?  There is no point of connection, unless God somehow becomes part of our reality,  unless, somehow, the infinite God, our only God, who can do all things, becomes one of us, becomes present and real for us. 

How can this be?

The last thing Gabriel says to Mary is “For nothing will be impossible for God…”  … Wait a second … “nothing will be impossible?”  Why didn’t the angel say “nothing is impossible?”

God was about to do an extraordinary thing through Mary, an ordinary person.  Gabriels final words are an affirmation that, somehow, the very nature of reality, the nature of our relationship with God, will change with the birth of this child.  New things will be possible.  God’s ability to reach into our lives, to have deep relationship with us, becomes possible.  God will be present not just for the extraordinary times and needs in our lives, and not just for extraordinary people.  God will be here, in us, and for us, an integral part of our humdrum, daily, unexciting existence.  God will be here, walking with us in our ordinariness, because he will have experienced it for himself.  All of this will be made possible through Mary’s response: “Here am I, the servant of the Lord; let it be with me according to your word.

This is the lesson, and this is why I know, and have faith, that Mary’s encounter with God is real, because through her it became possible to enter into relationship with God in a new and deeper way.  And, through her we learn that faith and reality are inextricably bound together.  In Mary we find that nothing limits what God can do, not even the ordinariness that we all share with her.


Copyright (c) 2011, Allen Vander Meulen III, all rights reserved.  I’m happy to share my writings with you, as long as you are not seeking (or getting) financial benefit for doing so, and as long as proper credit for my authorship is given (via mention of my name on your site, or a link back to this site).

Author: Allen

A would-be historian turned IT Professional who responded to the call to the Ministry, and is now focused on social justice and community service. He is the proud father of a daughter and son, and enjoys life with his wife near Boston. You can follow Pastor Allen on Facebook at

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